Knowing your needs versus your wants!
Planning a wedding is a daunting task. The time needed, stress management and effort applied will determine the success of your wedding. We’ve ran into many scenarios with clients where they wanted so much with minimal resources. From venue size to the amount of guests attending, it just seemed impossible for those needs to be met.
I’ll use an example. A client reached out to us regarding photography and videography. They had this vision of a huge wedding with 300 plus guests. As a business, we were excited to have this inquiry. They explained to us the venue to be used, vendors wanted and now they needed us to provide our services. Everything was smooth sailing until we described what we would need on our end to deliver the product they desired. They were shocked to say the least. They hadn’t fully grasped the intricacies into providing their coverage. We explained to them there shouldn’t be any issues with capturing their wedding, but they needed to understand needs over wants.
We’ll give you 3 tips to leave your heart at ease.
Real versus fantasy
Maybe this is inaccurate, but many of the brides we’ve worked have stated thoughts or plans of the big day, from an early age. While engaging in chit chat after the wedding, we throw the question out there. “Was this how you pictured it to be”? Almost instantly after asking the question, the dreaded “no” was exclaimed! This doesn’t mean that every need wasn’t met or exceeded. It just means their fantasy wasn’t reality. When we get the chance, whether through blog (like this one) or personal interaction, this topic comes up. Set the bar low, if you jump over it with ease, raise it a bit. There’s nothing wrong with fantasies and dreams, we’re dreamers ourselves. We just can’t dream of running a marathon and actually completing it without training. Don’t worry, this part is the easiest.
Having YOUR wedding or a wedding your guests will love
Time and time again, we hear the number of guests attending change like a bank account on the 1st of the month. From guests canceling to multiple late attendees confirming and maybe even some invites to those who weren’t initially invited. You’re wanting to satisfy everyone but can’t get an accurate head count to complete the budget portion of the food and drinks. After a confirmed headcount you realize you’re over budget, by a lot. You don’t want to disappoint your guests and you want them to really have a good time. The truth is, your guests are having an amazing time celebrating you. This is almost the only time when it’s ok to be just a little selfish. Concentrate on what your desires are during this time. Remain committed to the hard-work you’ve put into the process. We’re not saying don’t consider your guests needs, we’re simply saying, this is YOUR wedding.
Pick the right vendors package for the occasion
Anthony Valentine here and I’m speaking on this one from personal experience. When my wife and I decided to get married, I was willing to make her every dream wedding come true. I let her take it all in during the planning process and remained her backbone when things got overwhelming. She had everything planned out from venue to florist and shared all of her research with me. After looking over everything, I had this feeling she over did it with with what we actually needed. We were having a semi small to medium sized wedding with approximately 100 guests. The 1st thing that caught my attention was how large the venue was. I just didn’t feel as if it was money well spent even though we were within budget. So we went back to the drawing board and came to realize, we could reallocate those funds to better our experience. Now use my experience as an example, I’m not saying don’t pick your dream venue. I’m only saying, if the shoe doesn’t fit, find the right size. Know absolutely what you need that will fit your occasion and watch the stress fall off.